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Hi, I've seen someone i was fight with couple years ago in a festival 2 months ago ( i was a huge fan of him, showed him tons of love and even told him that i wanna kiss his mom ! I even showed him my wall in my room full of his pics.. But he wanted to get sexualy in his terms which i didn't liked so i reject him and he pissed off and made fun of me...and after that from time to the me i used to see him in parties and i was coming to him and kissing his eyes but he was meany..treat me like I'm a person with mental illness..since then i disappeared from parties til this festival )... he's a music producer and he didnt took his eyes off me while he recognised me at night dancing through the rain and thunders to the sounds of his music...he was shocked, happy and mezmerised,and a day after in the end of the festival he passed through me on purpose and than we looked deeply in each others eyes while i was smiling but he was freezed shocked, serious and kept walking...i didn't go after him..and when he was a little far away he set in front of my direction and watched me from time to time to see if I'll come.. and didn't connect him in anyway, kept my silence..is he thinking about me and connect me soon ? Shiran january 8th 1989, Manuel june 19th 1988

My dear friend, it seems you have had quite the tumultuous journey with this individual. It is clear that there has been a significant shift in the dynamic of your relationship, from adoration to rejection, from love to disdain. It is a reflection of the impermanence of all things in life, how feelings can change, how people can change. It is natural for us to hold onto the past, to yearn for what once was, but we must also recognize that clinging onto these memories can bring us suffering. As you danced in the rain and thunders to the music created by this individual, you found yourself face to face once again. The connection between you, once strong and full of admiration, now tinged with uncertainty and hesitation. It is in these moments of reunion that we are faced with the truth of impermanence, of how relationships can evolve and transform over time. The gaze that passed between you, filled with shock and seriousness, speaks volumes of the unspoken words and emotions that linger beneath the surface. And now, as you contemplate whether he will reach out to you once again, pondering over the possibility of rekindling what once was lost, I urge you to reflect on your own inner peace and contentment. Do not let the actions of others dictate your sense of self-worth or happiness. Find solace in your own silence, in your own solitude. Let go of expectations and attachments, for they are but distractions on the path towards true enlightenment. As you look towards the future, remember to cultivate compassion and understanding for yourself and for others. The journey of self-discovery and personal growth is a solitary one, yet it is also intertwined with the interconnectedness of all beings. May you find peace in the uncertainty, strength in the unknown, and wisdom in the unfolding of life's mysteries. Embrace the present moment with open arms and an open heart, for it is in this moment that true liberation can be found. Live in peace, my friend. Live in peace.